Why You Shouldn’t Sit On Your Own in Class
You enter the classroom and frown. Everyone is not sitting in their assigned seats. You glance at the teacher’s desk and realise that there’s a substitute today. The worse thing is, you came in late so there’s only one seat left – and that involves sitting next to someone.
You usually like assigned seats because then it doesn’t result in awkwardly sitting on your own. But now you have to sit next to someone or sit at the very front, directly in front of the teacher.
It’s tough deciding who to sit next too. There’s that group you want to befriend, that hot person you like, that nice person who speaks to you now and again. Then there’s a seat by itself. Having only a few moments to decide where to sit without looking weird, you decide to sit on your own, rather than bother somebody by sitting next to them.
Why you shouldn’t sit on your own:
1) You won’t get to practise your conversational skills
The best way to get over shyness is to constantly practise your social skills at every possible chance you get. So it’s best to not miss this opportunity to practise talking. Even if it’s just for a brief moment when the teacher leaves the classroom for a minute.
2) Classmates will think you don’t like them
It’s a very unfair assumption students do, but it tends to be what most people think. If you actually liked your classmates, then why would you sit all the way at the other side of the classroom? It makes sense to a degree, but it’s worth knowing you’re slightly hurting your prospects of making friends by sitting away from people.
3) Classmates will think you’re stuck-up
Similar to the point above, if you choose to sit on your own, classmates will think you’re purposely avoiding them. This is possibly because you think you’re too good for them. Again, it’s an unfair assumption teens make, but it’s unavoidable and hurts your chances of making friends.
4) You’re showing your potential friends you’re not interested
In order to make friends, it’s vital to sit next to at least one person a lot throughout your classes. This shows that you are interested in them and want to actually talk to them. Make sure you do actually talk to them, however. It’s hard to cope with nerves when talking to other teens. But you need to talk. Otherwise, they’ll going to be a little freaked out that you’re following them everywhere but not saying anything.
It’s difficult to must up the courage to sit next to someone in class, especially if you do have friends and never talk to any of your other classmates. But if you’re really really nervous, then leave a seat in-between you and the person you want to sit next too. A lot of people do this method and it slightly takes the pressure off to talk to them, making it easier to focus on talking to the person rather than dealing with your nerves.
Need more help on sitting next to friends in class? Look out for my upcoming article, “Tips on who to sit next to in class”.
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