Why You Shouldn’t Care What Your Classmates Think
The warm heat from the sun is shining down on your shoulders as you walk through the school grounds at lunchtime. You’re just after putting your books away in your locker and are considering going into town to buy some lunch. But then you see a fellow teen who is quite friendly in class.
You walk past them, but then stop. Leaning against the railing, you take your phone out and pretend to text. You consider hanging out with them at lunch this time, so you have a chance at making friends with them.
However, they’re surrounded by their own friends. Wouldn’t it be weird just to march right up to them and join their conversation? They’ve been buddies for years. Also, what would you say? Isn’t it awkward just to say hi and start your own conversation? But that teen is really nice, it would be great to hang out with them outside of class. Shame they’ve got their friends with them.
Sighing, you leave and walk into town on your own.
Why you shouldn’t care what your classmates think:
1) Your conversations are going to take a hit
If you constantly worry about what other people think, you’re going to be terrified at what to say to them. You won’t know what’s the right or wrong thing to say in any conversation at all.
2) You’ll miss out on chances to hang out
Classmates may ask you if you want to go to the cinema with them, or see a concert in a few months. But if you’re concerned that they’re only asking you out of pity, then you’re never going to get anywhere with anyone.
3) You’ll feel really stressed
Trying to keep up with the latest fashion trends, mobile phone apps, TV programme, who’s dating who, etc., is going to take a big toll on you. You can still get over your shyness without knowing these things to include in your conversations.
4) Your classmates may think you’re a poser
School is a hard time on everyone, especially when you’re shy and you just want to fit in. But fitting in is difficult, it leads to worrying that the only way to succeed in getting over shyness is to be like everyone else. This isn’t true. In fact, it usually makes your classmates think you’re just a poser. Although it’s clichéd, it’s better to just be yourself.
It’s tough to not care what your classmates think, but the more your practise, the easier it gets. You’ll find that your time is more beneficial spent practising getting over your shyness, rather than constantly worrying over what other teens think.
Photo by Len Matthews