The Importance of Keeping in Contact
You smile and laugh with your classmates. You say goodbye as you leave the school gates. You had a tough day trying to talk to people and make some new friends. It’s time to go home for the day and do some homework. Maybe read the latest Young Adult bestseller. Everything is all going great.
But then something happens.
The next day at school, the people who were talking too – especially that particular group of teens you like, are not talking to you. Or at least, are acting like nothing at all happened yesterday. It appears as though all your efforts were a waste. Why were they suddenly ignoring you?
Although it’s all very well and good to talk to other teenagers in your year, you forgot something vital.
The importance of keeping in contact:
They’ll Remember You
Imagine you had a big group of friends. You talk to them all the time, hang out with them at the weekends and sit next to each other in class. You’re all in your own social bubble.
A random classmate decides to talk to join in the discussion. You know this person is friendly from previous discussions, so you don’t mind them talking to you and your friends. Then you leave your class with your friends and talk about your homework, etc.
It’s very to forget about that ‘random’ classmate. But when they get a message from that classmate, they’ll remember them more. They might even strike up a conversation again tomorrow about their texts.
You’re Not Just Being Polite
Going back to the common scenario above, the group of friends saw that the ‘random’ classmate was assigned to sit next to them. So it was polite to make small talk with their neighbours, rather than just sit there in awkward silence.
This especially is the case when that classmate doesn’t speak to them for the rest of the day (because they aren’t assigned to sit next to them in any other classmates, for example).
Therefore, the classmate has no reason to talk to them outside of school. But they do. They go out of their way to send the group of friends a message. It helps them realise (even subconsciously) that you’re talking to them because you like them, not just because they feel forced too.
You Can Invite Them to Hang Out
This is a big reason. If you’re feeling alone at the weekend, you have no choice but to stick it out until Monday comes. But if you have someone’s number/social media, then you can just send them a quick message to hang out someplace. Of course, it depends what level of acquaintanceship you are with them, but generally, it’s alright to ask them to hang out.
It also gives them a chance to ask you to come along to an event they might be holding with their friends. It’s not always best to rely on this, but it’s worth acknowledging.
Keeping in touch is a useful skill to have. Even for when you’re older and you want to see how your old friends are getting on from school. But for now, it’ll help you in your journey of overcoming shyness and making new friends. Good luck. 🙂
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