Welcome to www.teenshyness.com. Contrary to what the media tells us, not all teenagers are loud, rowdy and outgoing. In fact, many are quite shy and struggle to make conversations.
I, myself, used to be a shy teen. I could barely just about say hi to a fellow student without blushing and feeling faint. I would attempt to talk to my classmates, but a lump would occur in my throat and my mind would go blank.
I only had one friend from National School, but she wasn’t in most of my classes. The only reason I had actually managed to make friends with her was because she did all the talking and I basically just nodded along.
I longed to improve my conversational skills. I wanted to be like everyone else. I wanted to hang out at the weekend, chat to other teens in school and try dating.
After my parents constantly telling me to ‘get more confidence’ and ‘make eye contact’, I knew I had to really try. They wanted me to be happy, they hated seeing me upset at having no social life. Through trial and error, I eventually got over my shyness to a stage where I can talk like the average person. It took a good number of years, however.
After a while, I discovered that there were many other shy teens around me. Though I hadn’t realised it at the time. I wanted to help them, I hated seeing them suffer like I had. That was how www.teenshyness.com arose. There isn’t a lot of advice on shyness out there and a lot of it doesn’t come from first hand experience. Consequently, much of the advice isn’t going to be great.
Instead of wasting time in trial and error, I’m providing you with advice you can implement straight away. No more vague ‘Listen and nod’ tips. Here, I actually give you applicable everyday school life advice, like ‘How to talk to the person sitting next to you in class’. I really needed specific advice like that when I was shy and I’m sure you do too.
I now have a good social life, with many friends and I actually go on dates. You can do this. It’s difficult, but you will get there. Just be careful, this process doesn’t occur overnight. But I’ll be here to help you every step of the way, to get through this, to get the life you want.
Good luck. 🙂